# This or That Questions for Adults, Friends and Family Source: https://thisorthatquestion.com/this-or-that-questions-for-adults Updated: 2026-11-11 Clean grown-up pairs for game night, family dinner and group chats, with lists for friends, family and seniors. ## Quick facts - In this or that, people pick one of two options and explain the pick. A round of 15 pairs takes about 10 minutes for a group of 6. - Adult this or that questions work best when both sides fit real adult life: money, mornings, homes, friends and family. - This or that with friends works in a group chat: post one pair a day and let everyone vote with a reply or an emoji. - This or that questions for seniors do well with memory topics, such as Letters or Phone calls, because each answer comes with a story. - Every pair on this page is clean. For the flirty adult version, use the spicy page for players 18 and over. ## Adult this or that questions about grown-up life These this or that adult questions cover bills, sleep and weekends. They suit coworkers, neighbors and friends equally. 1. Pay off debt or Build savings? 2. Own a house or Rent and travel? 3. Early retirement or Dream job? 4. Meal prep Sunday or Decide every night? 5. Four-day week or Two-week summer break? 6. Host the dinner party or Be the guest? 7. Afternoon nap or Afternoon coffee? 8. New car payment or Paid-off old car? 9. Book club or Run club? 10. Bed by 10 or Out past midnight? 11. Inbox zero or 4,000 unread emails? 12. Wine night or Game night? 13. Vegetable garden or Houseplants? 14. Clean as you go or Clean it all Sunday? ## This or that questions for friends and your best friend Use these this or that questions to ask friends at brunch or in the group chat. The last few work as this or that questions for best friend pairs who think they know each other's answers. 1. Big friend group or One best friend? 2. Brunch or Happy hour? 3. Friend who's always late or Friend who cancels? 4. Road trip with friends or Cabin weekend? 5. Inside jokes or Shared playlists? 6. Tell your best friend everything or Keep a few secrets? 7. Matching tattoos or Matching bracelets? 8. Plan the trip or Just show up? 9. Voice memo or Long text? 10. Karaoke duet or Dance-off? 11. Sleepover or Night out? 12. Hype friend or Honest friend? ## This or that questions for family These this or that family questions work across ages, so grandparents and teens can answer the same pair at one table. 1. Big family dinner or Small holiday? 2. Family group chat or Sunday phone call? 3. Board games or Card games? 4. Family reunion or Family cruise? 5. Grandma's recipes or New recipes? 6. Host the holidays or Travel for the holidays? 7. Home videos or Photo albums? 8. Family road trip or Family flight? 9. Oldest sibling or Youngest sibling? 10. Live near family or Live in another state? ## This or that questions for women and girls These this or that questions for girls and women fit a girls' night or a bridal party icebreaker. Moms also use this or that for girls' sleepovers with teens. Play this or that girl-talk style: everyone answers, then the room votes on the best reason. 1. Messy bun or Sleek ponytail? 2. Gold jewelry or Silver jewelry? 3. Girls' trip or Spa weekend? 4. Tote bag or Crossbody bag? 5. Nails done or Hair done? 6. Sundress or Jeans and a nice top? 7. Lip gloss or Lipstick? 8. Rom-com marathon or True crime marathon? 9. Ballet flats or White sneakers? 10. Bookstore or Plant shop? 11. Iced latte or Matcha? ## This or that for boys and men These pairs suit a guys' night, a bachelor party or a tailgate. Anyone can answer them; they lean toward sports, food and tools. 1. Cookout or Tailgate? 2. Pickup truck or Sports car? 3. Mustache or Full beard? 4. Fantasy football or Poker night? 5. Power tools or Kitchen gadgets? 6. Golf or Fishing? 7. Baseball cap or Beanie? 8. Steak or Wings? 9. Barber shop or Home haircut? 10. Sports bar or Watch party at home? 11. Workshop or Home gym? ## This or that questions for seniors Activity directors at senior centers read these aloud and let residents raise a hand for each side. Ask one resident per pair to share a memory. 1. Morning walk or Evening walk? 2. Jigsaw puzzle or Word search? 3. Letters or Phone calls? 4. Big band or Rock and roll? 5. Grow vegetables or Grow flowers? 6. Old movies or New movies? 7. Bingo or Cards? 8. Grandkids visit you or You visit the grandkids? 9. Radio or Records? 10. Knitting or Woodworking? 11. Cruise or RV trip? ## Good this or that questions for adults: question of the day These bigger pairs work as a daily post in a group chat, on a team channel or on a fridge whiteboard. 1. Visit the past or Visit the future? 2. Speak every language or Play every instrument? 3. Retire at 40 or Never age past 40? 4. Free travel for life or Free groceries for life? 5. Live without music or Live without movies? 6. Famous for a day or Rich for a year? 7. Sleep anywhere or Need only 4 hours of sleep? 8. Undo one mistake or Relive one perfect day? 9. Know how you die or Know when? 10. Lifetime of dessert or Lifetime of bread? 11. Move abroad for a year or Take a year off at home? ## How to play this or that for adults 1. Pick one section that fits the group, or open the random picker at /this-or-that-generator. 2. Read a pair aloud. Everyone points left for the first option and right for the second. 3. Ask one person from the smaller side to defend the pick in 20 seconds. 4. Move to the next pair. Rotate the reader every 5 pairs. 5. End after 15 to 20 pairs, before energy drops. ## Tips for this or that ideas for adults - Match the pairs to the room. Family dinners need different pairs than a night out with friends. - Skip politics and religion. Those pairs end the game instead of starting stories. - For seniors, print the list in large type with your browser's Print button and read slowly. - In a group chat, post one pair at the same time each day so people expect it. - Add a follow-up rule: anyone who picks the less popular side gets one sentence to win people over. ## Frequently asked questions ### What are this or that questions for adults? This or that questions for adults are two-option questions about grown-up life, such as Inbox zero or 4,000 unread emails. Adults use them at game nights, family dinners, in group chats and as a daily question. Each person picks one side and gives a reason. The pairs below are clean, so friends, families and seniors can all play. ### What are good this or that questions for adults? Good this or that questions for adults use choices from adult life. Try Pay off debt or Build savings, Bed by 10 or Out past midnight, and Host the dinner party or Be the guest. Both sides should tempt someone, so avoid pairs with an obvious winner. ### What are fun this or that questions for adults at a party? Fun this or that questions for adults at a party mix silly and personal pairs. Try Inbox zero or 4,000 unread emails, Friend who's always late or Friend who cancels, and Famous for a day or Rich for a year. A this or that adults round of 15 pairs fills about 10 minutes. ### Which this or that questions adults with kids can play at home? Use the family section. Pairs like Board games or Card games and Home videos or Photo albums work for parents, grandparents and kids at one table. These this or that questions for family stay clean, so nobody needs to skip a round. ### How do I run a question of the day for adults this or that style? Post one pair at the same time each day in a group chat, team channel or on a whiteboard. Ask people to reply with their pick and one reason. The question of the day section has 11 bigger pairs, and the random picker at /this-or-that-generator supplies more. ### Are there this or that questions adult groups can play at work? Yes. The grown-up life and question of the day sections work at work because they avoid personal topics. Skip the friends section with new coworkers, and keep the spicy page out of the office entirely. ### What is the difference between this or that for adults and for kids? This or that for adults uses adult topics: money, homes, careers, friendships and family roles. Kids' versions stick to food, animals and school. Adults also give longer reasons, so plan fewer pairs per minute than you would with children. ### Can I play this or that for friends over text? Yes. This or that for friends works in any group chat. Send one pair, add your own answer, and let everyone reply. Instagram Stories poll stickers also work for a two-option vote among followers. ### What are this or that questions for seniors with memory loss? Pick short, concrete pairs tied to familiar things: Radio or Records, Bingo or Cards, Letters or Phone calls. Read each pair slowly, show both options on a large sign, and accept any answer. Stop after 8 to 10 pairs or sooner if residents tire.