This or That Questions for Couples: Romantic, Funny and Dating Pairs

This or that couples edition: date night ideas

Use these this or that date ideas to plan your next night out. Each of you picks a side, and any pair you both pick goes on the date list.

These this or that date night ideas also work as a planning tool on a Friday afternoon, when neither of you wants to decide.

1. Dinner outorCooking together?
2. Drive-in movieorMovie marathon in bed?
3. PicnicorRooftop bar?
4. Axe throwingorGlow-in-the-dark mini golf?
5. KaraokeorComedy club?
6. Board game nightorTrivia night?
7. Planned dateorSurprise date?
8. ConcertorMuseum?
9. Wine tastingorBrewery tour?
10. Escape roomorArcade?
11. Cooking classorPottery class?
12. Ice skatingorRoller skating?
13. Breakfast dateorLate-night date?
14. Dress uporSweatpants date?

Romantic this or that questions for couples

These this or that romantic questions show how each of you likes to give and receive affection. Ask a follow-up after each one: "When did that last happen?"

15. Love letterorLove song?
16. FlowersorChocolates?
17. Forehead kissesorHolding hands?
18. Candlelit dinnerorBreakfast in bed?
19. Handwritten cardorSurprise playlist?
20. Public proposalorPrivate proposal?
21. Morning cuddlesorLate-night talks?
22. Cute nicknamesorFirst names?
23. Grand gestureorSmall daily gestures?
24. Big anniversary partyorQuiet anniversary dinner?
25. Slow dance in the kitchenorSlow dance in the rain?
26. Weekend getawayorStaycation?
27. Matching pajamasorCouples costume?
28. Say I love you firstorHear it first?

Funny this or that questions for couples

Fun this or that questions for couples poke at the small habits every partner notices. Read these at a double date and let each couple defend their answer.

29. Partner who steals the coversorPartner who steals your fries?
30. Snoring partnerorIce-cold feet partner?
31. Sings in the showerorTalks in their sleep?
32. Their cookingorTakeout forever?
33. Fight over the thermostatorFight over the GPS?
34. Watch ahead on your showorWait for them forever?
35. Lose the argumentorWin and sleep on the couch?
36. Hog the bathroomorHog the closet?
37. Hangry partnerorSleepy partner?
38. Back-seat driverorDriver who gets lost?
39. Couples TikTok accountorTotally private relationship?
40. Share dessertorOrder two desserts?
41. Leave dishes in the sinkorLeave clothes on the floor?
42. Your mom's cookingorTheir mom's cooking?

This or that questions: dating edition for early dates

These this or that dating questions keep a first or second date moving without feeling like an interview. Start with the lighter ones and save the last few for date three.

43. Text firstorWait for them to text?
44. First date coffeeorFirst date dinner?
45. Long textsorVoice notes?
46. Meet the friends firstorMeet the family first?
47. Dating apporMeet in person?
48. Split the billorTake turns paying?
49. Kiss on the first dateorWait?
50. Talk every dayorSpace to miss each other?
51. Phone callorFaceTime?
52. Plans a week aheadorLast-minute plans?
53. Love at first sightorSlow burn?
54. Plan the first dateorLet them plan?
55. Good-morning textsorGood-night texts?
56. Same sense of humororSame taste in music?

This or that questions: relationship edition for everyday life

These relationship this or that questions cover the daily stuff: sleep, chores and money. Couples who live together, or plan to, get the most out of them.

Answer these this or that relationship questions honestly. A split answer on chores now saves an argument later.

57. Big spoonorLittle spoon?
58. Shared blanketorSeparate blankets?
59. Left side of the bedorRight side of the bed?
60. Joint bank accountorSeparate accounts?
61. Clean togetherorSplit the chores?
62. Cook dinnerorDo the dishes?
63. Talk it out right awayorCool off first?
64. Double datesorJust the two of us?
65. Holidays with your familyorHolidays with mine?
66. Same hobbyorSeparate hobbies?
67. Shared calendarorWing it?
68. Adopt a puppyorStart a plant collection?
69. Fall asleep togetherorFall asleep whenever?
70. Grocery listorWander the aisles?

Future and big-picture questions

Save these this or that questions to ask your partner for a quiet night. They open real conversations about where you want to live and how you want to spend money.

71. City apartmentorHouse in the suburbs?
72. Big weddingorElope?
73. Travel firstorSettle down first?
74. RentorBuy?
75. Save for a houseorSpend on travel?
76. Stay in one townorMove every few years?
77. Renew vowsorSecond honeymoon?
78. Road trip honeymoonorIsland honeymoon?
79. Retire earlyorWork at something you love?
80. FarmhouseorLoft downtown?
81. Live near familyorLive far away?
82. Tiny houseorBig backyard?
83. Paint the walls boldorKeep them white?
84. Dinner party hostsorRestaurant regulars?

This or that boyfriend edition: questions to ask a guy

These this or that questions for boyfriend chats lean toward sports, gaming and food, but any partner can answer them. Send this or that for boyfriend texts during his lunch break, one pair at a time.

They also work as this or that questions to ask a guy you just started dating.

85. Video games with meorWatch me play?
86. BeardorClean-shaven?
87. Grill masterorKitchen chef?
88. Me in your hoodieorMe in your jersey?
89. Gym dateorCouch date?
90. CologneorFresh shower smell?
91. Fix it yourselforCall a pro?
92. Ask for directionsorFigure it out?
93. Guys' nightorDate night?
94. Cuddle during the movieorActually watch the movie?
95. Game day at homeorGame day at the stadium?
96. Road trip driverorRoad trip DJ?
97. Fishing triporCamping trip?

This or that questions for girlfriend: questions to ask a girl

Use these this or that questions for her on a date, on a call or over text. They also work as this or that questions to ask a girl you met recently, because none of them get too personal.

98. Fresh flowersorPotted plant?
99. Spa dayorAdventure day?
100. JewelryorExperiences?
101. Brunch dateorDinner date?
102. Rom-comorThriller?
103. Girls' nightorNight in with me?
104. Heels on a dateorSneakers on a date?
105. Long walkorLong drive?
106. Sweet note in your bagorSweet text at lunch?
107. Take photosorLive in the moment?
108. Matching outfitsorMatching colors?
109. Get ready togetherorSurprise reveal?
110. Bookstore dateorFlea market date?

How to play this or that couples game

This or that couple game rules stay simple. The version below works at a dinner table, in the car or as a this or that quiz for couples at a party. This or that for couples needs no cards or app, just this page or a printed list.

1. Pick one section from this page, or open the random picker at /this-or-that-generator.
2. Partner A reads a pair aloud. Both of you answer at the same time on the count of three.
3. If you match, move on. If you split, each of you gets 30 seconds to defend your pick.
4. Swap readers after every pair so both partners choose questions.
5. For the quiz version, guess your partner's answer first and score a point for each correct guess.
6. Stop after 20 pairs, or when one answer turns into a longer conversation.

Tips for couples this or that on dates and over text

• Print 20 this or that couples questions with your browser's Print button. A couple this or that questions night at home costs nothing and fits into any evening.
• Ask why. "Big spoon" is an answer; the reason behind it is the conversation.
• Mix one light pair with one deeper pair. Three future questions in a row can feel like a job interview.
• Over text, send one pair at a time and answer it yourself first. It keeps the thread going for days.
• At a double date, read the this or that questions couple by couple, then compare which couple matched more.
• Skip money and family pairs on a first date. Bring them out after a few months together.